Steps to enter 2018

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To the dreamers in my life, 

As we approach years end, this is a time that brings up a lot of conflicting emotions for people. And yet, we are inspired to reflect on the year that has passed and set intentions for what we dream will transpire in the year ahead.

Resolutions fade because so often we focus on the what, a bit about the how, but very rarely do they focus on the most significant factor - the WHY.

As 2017 closes the loop around that big star in our sky, I challenge you to connect with your why

“There are only two ways to influence human behavior: you can manipulate it or you can inspire it." - Simon Sinek

Below, I have shared with you my yearly process around how I create my practices and goals. This work has changed my life year after year. I encourage each of you to develop your own take on how it can help you discover your why!

TIP: Each time I write a habit/intention for the upcoming year, I start with why. Lets begin!

I. Create your Workspace: Divide a large note or poster board into 7 categories:

  1. Personal
  2. Spiritual
  3. Physical
  4. Professional
  5. Financial
  6. Social
  7. Relational  

II. Define your GOAL: Under each category, write out a few reasons why you may need to create a new habit within this category. What is the goal for this new activity in your life? This is your WHY.

Example Goal: - "My goal is to slow down my eating habits so I can live more consciously."

III. Create your HABIT: "What is the new habit I'm looking to cultivate?" This can be a single new habit, or two or even three for each category. The important thing is to make sure its something you know you can achieve that year. This is your WHAT.

Example Habit - “I will be more mindful of my diet by not eating after 9pm."

IV. Set your PRACTICE: This is what you will tangibly do in order to begin bringing this habit to life. This is your HOW.

Example Practice:- “I’ll practice mindfulness by saying a prayer to my food every time I eat and taking note of the time I'm eating."

A few notes to help light the way:
1. Each new habit and practice has to be something that is tangible enough for me to acheive within a 12 month period. I ask myself, "what is the next step?", not what is at the top of the staircase.
2. With each habit and practice added, something needs to be removed, or at least new space created. Writing out a time structure helps tremendously when it comes to cultivating new habits and practices. If you are serious about creating a practice, you must know the time of day, the duration, and frame-work of the practice. Check out the app seconds to create a timeline, and let yourself drop into your personal structure.
3. It is important that you commit your personal practices to something greater than yourself. No matter what, if the reason why is greater than yourself, you will be more likely to keep up the work! Ever notice that it's easier to show up for others than yourself?... same concept. 

Because of my habits, practices, and goals in 2017, my top 10 celebratory accomplishments this year are:

  1. Cultivated a daily practice that I love and am committed to. 
  2. Graduated from the Art of Leadership Mastery from the Institute of Embodied Wisdom. 
  3. Developed an online course called, How To Goddess and have had over 100 women in the program. 
  4. Gathered women on a weekly basis in mine and Seth's home, and in doing so, surrounded myself with strong sisterhood.
  5. Started my coaching certification at The Tantric Institute of Integrated Sexuality
  6. Booked 3 commercials and made more money this year than all previous years.
  7. Expanded the work and depth of  love within mine and Seth's relationship
  8. Became Vegan.
  9. Put out the META Method elemental series for free!
  10. Birthed WILD VESSEL and brought it to life, thanks to so many!!! 

 


Finally, I just want to offer a deep bow of gratitude to each of you. We are on this journey together. Let us acknowledge the ebb and flow of life and continue to meet in the celebration.

I love you. I hope this was helpful. Let's bring in the new year by collectively defining and exploring the power of our Why.
 

Posted on December 28, 2017 .

Bringing life to LIFE through a Practice.  Ritual | Commitment | Gratitude.

Bringing life to LIFE through a Practice. 
Ritual | Commitment | Gratitude.


Do you have trouble sticking with a practice? Maybe it's because there's no meaning behind it for you? Maybe you just did it because someone else told you to... or maybe you haven't found a reason to commit to one.

Whatever the case, it's time to develop a practice that brings your life to LIFE. 

A daily practice sets the tone for the entire day. It improves your mental state and awareness, awakens new energy in the body without caffeine,  and keeps you connected to larger commitments that can sometimes seem daunting when staring at a computer all day.

Below, I give you 3 tips to to cultivate a morning practice, or set a strong frame-work for the one you have now. By having a daily practice, (which I always find easier to do in the morning,)  it gives my life purpose, and  is an instant reflection that I am living out my commitment of self-love and service to the feminine. If I practice without a purpose, it’s like movement without a backbone. When I practice for the sake of something larger than myself, it is instantly reflected in my actions the rest of the day. 

Here are 3 steps to having a powerful practice that is sure to keep you on track: 

1- Ritual - Intention setting - (Who am I being?)
2- Commitment - Creation - (What am I doing?)
3- Gratitude- Integration - (As a result, what do I have?)

Great, so what does that ACTUALLY look like?

#1- Ritual  = Meditation  (10 minutes) 
Starting with a ritual is key to feeling purpose in life. Use a meditation and set an intention to bring ritual into your practice. It is a practice that reminds us to breathe, slow down and take a moment to acknowledge our inner world. For example, I say to myself, " I practice in order to be an embodied commitment  to  self-love, partnership, and our connection to the earth. I am committed to love, especially when it's hard and be in my creative potential in order to serve humanity and the feminine." 

Create your dedicated ritual and say it daily!


#2- Commitment = Movement (15 Minutes)
Movement is the area of a daily practice that helps release energy in the body, and strengthens the physical landscape of your vessel. When you begin your day with a practice and set the tone with a ritual, it invites a strong commitment to a physical practice. Through a movement practice, you strengthen your emotional body to your commitments. If ritual sets the tone for being committed to something greater, movement is the instant experience that puts that commitment in action through self-love and care.

Whether your thing is dancing, yoga or working out - commit. 


#3- Gratitude  = Journal  (5 minutes) 
At the end of each practice, it is powerful to close with gratitude and an appreciation for what you have. Close your eyes and give thanks, or write down what you’re grateful for that day. (Here is a great journey to use as a tool for this process!) Whatever it is, by you being in a state of gratitude, you are stepping into a perspective outside of yourself, giving others the space to trust you, your leadership, and what you are committed to.

This, above anything else, is the greatest game-changer. 


Recap: Set the tone for your day | Dance to that tone | Give thanks that you can. 

 

HIGHLIGHTS OF THE MONTH!

Oregon Eclipse Festival
August 17-23rd.
Teaching META Method 7:30pm Monday 8/21
Performances with: The Glitch Mob, Random Rab & The Human Experience. 

ALONE = ALL ONE
Here's a video to remind you to spend time alone and get into nature. 

TRACK OF THE MONTH
RANDOM RAB- Gimme That Hope
Flavor- Upbeat and uplifting. 

"Meditation is a process of lightening up, of trusting the basic goodness of what we have and who we are, and of realizing that any wisdom that exists, exists in what we already have. We can lead our life so as to become more awake to who we are and what we’re doing rather than trying to improve or change or get rid of who we are or what we’re doing. The key is to wake up, to become more alert, more inquisitive and curious about ourselves." ~ Pema Chodron

With a howl at the moon,
Elana

Posted on August 4, 2017 .

Climaxes, Managing Expectations and Time...

We live in a society where the pinnacle moments are the only ones that seem to matter - where 99% of our time is spent in the valleys between. 

Recently, I found myself in a situation in which I was quick to make something happen rather than appreciate the walk through that valley. 

I was about to launch a massive new project with an incredible team of women pre-maturely. It's as if I sought to defy time and process. "Time can't touch me!" was my mentality. 

I thought we had the tricks and tools to accomplish it all and to jump our way through an impossible time frame.

And in this,
I became tense...
I became hard...
I held resentment for friends and family that "got in my way."
I had no TIME for anything besides jumping over the hurdle of "impossible."

I almost cracked.

...But then I got vulnerable. 
I managed to get out of the way and halter my own preconceived expectations, allowing myself to  see this beautiful vision in front of us. Yes, it now has a longer time-line than we originally projected, but in this, we realized we do have all the tools to make the impossible possible.

Its time to check expectations at the door and have no demands of... well... time. 

Take away:
Go for your dreams and make your dreams your reality. Things take time. With patience, persistence and perspiration, it makes an unbeatable combination for success.
...and share your fruits among community. 

Posted on June 6, 2017 .

This dance is one of mastery, a blossoming and continuous unfolding…

  " We are both light and shadow, dancing and meeting each other in each other, to be ultimately reconciled within. "  My medicine this month has been transitions. To find those moments to  PAUSE.  This pause can change the entire course of a conversation, attitude and perspective of the day.   When I close my eyes and take a deep breath in before I sit at the computer, before I get out of the car for meetings, and pause before I eat, I reframe my mindset and get a whole new wave of energy,  happiness and resilience.    It is within these transitions that  we choose peace, tranquility, and the discipline to continue to work while being grounded and taking flight. And It is yours to take.    Why is it effective?  - it's brief (15 seconds), it taps into your emotions and pauses the motions, it calls forth your most powerful self, and (I think we know by now), breathing helps brain function.    Here are some tips:  1. Get clear on who you want to be for yourself, colleagues, family and friends.   2. Use transitions between leaving the house, entering work, eating,  and take 3 deep breaths. Center into your clarity.  3. Find two words or phrases that resonate with you.  Say one as you breath in and  the other as you breath out.   Pause...I dare you. :)    This dance is one of mastery ,  a blossoming and continuous unfolding…

 "We are both light and shadow, dancing and meeting each other in each other, to be ultimately reconciled within. "

My medicine this month has been transitions.
To find those moments to
PAUSE.

This pause can change the entire course of a conversation, attitude and perspective of the day. 

When I close my eyes and take a deep breath in before I sit at the computer, before I get out of the car for meetings, and pause before I eat, I reframe my mindset and get a whole new wave of energy, 
happiness and resilience.

 It is within these transitions that  we choose
peace,
tranquility, and
the discipline
to continue to work while being grounded and taking flight. And It is yours to take. 

Why is it effective? - it's brief (15 seconds), it taps into your emotions and pauses the motions, it calls forth your most powerful self, and (I think we know by now), breathing helps brain function. 

Here are some tips:
1. Get clear on who you want to be for yourself, colleagues, family and friends.  
2. Use transitions between leaving the house, entering work, eating,  and take 3 deep breaths. Center into your clarity. 
3. Find two words or phrases that resonate with you.  Say one as you breath in and  the other as you breath out. 

Pause...I dare you. :)

This dance is one of mastery, a blossoming and continuous unfolding…

Posted on May 17, 2017 .

This dance is one of mastery, a blossoming and continuous unfolding…

 "We are both light and shadow, dancing and meeting each other in each other, to be ultimately reconciled within. "

My medicine this month has been transitions.
To find those moments to
PAUSE.

This pause can change the entire course of a conversation, attitude and perspective of the day. 

When I close my eyes and take a deep breath in before I sit at the computer, before I get out of the car for meetings, and pause before I eat, I reframe my mindset and get a whole new wave of energy, 
happiness and resilience.

 It is within these transitions that  we choose
peace,
tranquility, and
the discipline
to continue to work while being grounded and taking flight. And It is yours to take. 

Why is it effective? - it's brief (15 seconds), it taps into your emotions and pauses the motions, it calls forth your most powerful self, and (I think we know by now), breathing helps brain function. 

Here are some tips:
1. Get clear on who you want to be for yourself, colleagues, family and friends.  
2. Use transitions between leaving the house, entering work, eating,  and take 3 deep breaths. Center into your clarity. 
3. Find two words or phrases that resonate with you.  Say one as you breath in and  the other as you breath out. 

Pause...I dare you. :)

This dance is one of mastery, a blossoming and continuous unfolding…

Posted on May 17, 2017 .

Where's Your Focus?

There are times when I feel overwhelmed and over extended. No one else feels this, right? ;]
It's in those times I gotta check-IN and see what's draining my energy! 

My energy gets drained when I give attention to things that aren't aligned with my dreams, goals and commitments.
Yet how would I know what's draining my energy if I never asked myself, "What am I committed too that fuels my dreams?" 

Our actions show us what we're committed to and sometimes that can be frightening! 
 

 

...because maybe what we give our attention to what isn't aligned with our higher dreams and goals.

I have found that when I clarify my commitments, I stay focused rather than pulled down and distracted in old patterns. 

Our beliefs have the power to create us or destroy us. I've learned that if I have a single drop of lingering doubt, then well, my goals and commitments ain't happening.
 

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Here are tips:
1. Change your mind set-  If your story is, "I can't", "It's selfish", "I am not worthy."... then, hey!...you're right! But NOW, you have the opportunity to COMMIT to writing a new story.
2. Choose to commit to your goal or dream- If you don't know what you're committed to, then how can you create goals towards your dreams? Figure it out, Know it. Write it down and put it on your bathroom mirror.
3. Pursue relentless action aligned to your commitment. - This could start with a meditation, moving your body in new ways, and a daily affirmation, saying what you're committed to. This process will help shape oriented goals. 
4. Trust the process-  There is a transition period between A & B. Embrace the change that may feel unsettling. It's part of it and people will help along the way if you let them.
5. Show sincere gratitude for the help and results- A daily Gratitude Practice shifts your focus from what your life lacks to the abundance that is already present. In addition, behavioral and psychological research has shown the surprising life improvements that can stem from the practice of gratitude. Giving thanks makes people happier and more resilient, it strengthens relationships, it improves health, and it reduces stress.

...And maybe you already know a tip that you're finally ready to listen to. ;]

Posted on March 20, 2017 .

#Get Woke

     I believe the world is craving The Woman. Capital T & W!  The Woman that is confident, sexy, gentle and powerful in her own magic.  She is Feminine, the healer, the Goddess and more than the sum of all her parts. 
I believe it is the education of Feminine energy that will balance the world, as clearly, it's been misunderstood. 

      We all share energy that is both Feminine and Masculine. Think of it as yin and yang, contrasting and complimentary to one another. Yet, the Feminine has been lost in our fast-paced and linear world. We've denied a whole side of ourselves. 
Has there been a time where you've wanted to relax and get out of your head, to soften, to be vulnerable, to play and make space to get creative, yet you don't quite know how? If so, this is the lost side of the Feminine.  (But don't worry, we're fixing that with the HOW TO GODDESS course.  ;) )

     It is time to connect to our wholeness, fullness and limitless power. To fully unleash our power, we must embrace all sides of ourselves. Masculine, Feminine and everything in-between...even if we don't like it. (Yet.)  

Tips on How To Tap Into Your Feminine:

Tips for the Women:
1. Don't do so much. (This is your permission slip to sit still!)
2. Move your body. (Play some music and let your hips move!) 
2. Lotion your body (Amazing to do after the shower. Receive.) 
3. Have a girls night (Get your nails done. Engage in a creative activity.)

Tips for the Men: 
1. Let her speak, don't rush her and listen. (Don't try and fix her. What she wants to say may take a few takes.)
2. Let her decide where you go to dinner and the movies. (Let her lead.)
3. Be emotionally available. (It's powerful to be vulnerable.)  
4. Keep your phone away while speaking and being social with others. (Your presence is safety and power.) 

     I challenge you to see how you can be more Feminine every day. See that maybe this is exactly what you've been looking for.  Here's some more info if you want to take a deeper dive into this thought.  Feminine Energy in the Office. 

Become that Feminine Goddess...

Posted on February 15, 2017 .

Expect Nothing. Prepare for Everything.

   I've heard from many people that 2016 was a tough year. Yet, as it stands, here we are, stronger than ever and more prepared for what's to come. Out of great fear and pain, comes great beauty. Out of tension comes transformation. Art is birthed from these ashes, gifting healing to our emotional grief and political turmoil. Now we stand with choices on how to take on the next year. 
       
      So how do I plan to take on the future? To be present in the love that is here right now. To get creative beyond my wildest dreams. To surround myself with good company and collectively see how we can create impactful change, that I play just as hard as I work, and reach for the stars as I deepen my roots.

       Amidst the challenging transition that we are facing this Friday, lets remember the importance of optimism and openness, trust, tolerance and teamwork, creativity, learning,  growth and kindness,  critical thinking while leading from the heart, and a willingness to embrace change. 

     If there's any more lingering fears or pain being carried, make this the final slice to those stories and transition into action using the love and power that lives in our hearts. 
You know what I'm taking about. We have work to do. 

“On this day, we gather because we have chosen hope over fear, unity of purpose over conflict and discord…” — President Barack Obama

Posted on January 11, 2017 .